@ The Reason to Make Friends 友達になる理由

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Aug 24, 2010 12:16
I don't like people who try to take advantage of native English speakers as a tool for their English. ( to improve English.)

When I was going to an English school called "Nova", which used to be the biggest English school in Japan, I met some young girls who said that they wanted an English native speaker for a boyfriend. They said that they could improve their English skills through daily conversation with their boyfriend.

I understand what they are trying to say, and it does make sense. However, I hated their ulterior motives for getting a boyfriend. (However, I hated such hidden agendas, which could be the ulterior motive to date their boyfriend.)

Chances are that those native speakers would not realize that one of the reasons in being their boyfriend was for their language skills, not merely for who they really are.
(Chances are those native speakers would not realize that one of the reasons their girlfriens dated them was because they were attracted to their mother-tongue, not merely themselves.)

It's sad.

I'm not 100% sure how those native speakers feel about it. Some of them would not mind at all, whatever the reasons are, as long as they can go out with a girl. There is probably a hidden contract to exchange and barter language skills for physical affairs. As there are various kinds of relationships, it's likely to be possible.

For all that, it's rude to see and approach people for the purpose of using them as a tool. (For all that, it's wrong to approach people and see them for the purpose of using of their language ability.)

It's a little complicated to draw the line in regard to human relationships, for example, there must be some reasons why I want to talk to you and become friends with you. I can't distinguish which reasons are proper or improper.

Have you ever thought about the reasons why you want to be a friend with someone?