Adopted Kids

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Oct 4, 2016 01:22
Today, I went to an orphanage located in the urban core. It'd been half a year since I'd last gone there. One of the caregivers there told me that a girl named “Lily” had already been adopted by a Jewish American family, but was still at the orphanage while the adoption was being finalized. The girl was four years old, very cute and outgoing. She even didn’t know that she'd been abandoned by her parents, and thought she wasn’t any different from any other girls.

Our company has an organization that regularly helps children in the orphanage, as well as senior-citizens in nursing homes. I’m a member of it. Lily impressed me a lot because she loved singing and dancing. I'll miss her, but at the same time, I am so glad that she's finally getting a home, a real home. I’m convinced that her adoptive parents will love her wholeheartedly. And, I even know the family will eat at a Chinese restaurant on Christmas Eve. Lol.

Americans adopt many Chinese children from orphanages every year. Some people say that they do this out of religious reasons because they’re Christian and the Bible tells them to adopt. Some of the adoptive parents have admitted this to be true. But, as I’ve just seen, they’re not all Christian. They can be Jewish, Mormon, or anything else.

The adoptive families have to pay the orphanages at least 20,000 dollars, which has agitated some Chinese netizens. Aren’t the institutions kid-traders? When the adopted kids have grown up, their adoptive parents will encourage them to find their biological parents. Many cases of these kids having become adults and coming back to search for their real parents have been reported. However, in Chinese culture, the adoptive parents don’t like their adopted kids to find their real parents, because they’re afraid of losing them.

Anyway, I’m so happy for them. Some of them are physically challenged, and almost all of them wouldn't be likely to receive quality education and health care. Chinese society is so competitive and even apathetic towards people with handicaps, that if they had remained at orphanages, they would not have had a happy childhood, and therefore a tough adult life would probably have been waiting ahead for them.

Rosie with Down's syndrome: http://nihaoyall.com/2015/04/a-family-for-rosie.html

A girl with no arms: http://news.163.com/photoview/00AO0001/2188335.html#p=BR89U21E00AO0001

(Revised)
今天我去了市中心的孤儿院。我已经有半年没去过那里了。有一个孤儿院工作人员告诉我,一个名为Lily的小女孩被一个美国犹太家庭收养了。小女孩四岁,很可爱,也很开朗,但她不知道她被父母遗弃,她也觉得自己和其他女孩没有什么区别。

我们单位有一个组织,定期去养老院和孤儿院帮忙。我是其中一员。Lily给我的印象很深,因为她爱唱爱跳,我有点想她,但非常高兴她终于有一个家了,一个真正的家。我相信她的收养家庭会全心全意地爱她,而且他们平安夜的时候肯定会在中餐馆聚餐。

美国人每年会在中国收养很多孤儿。有人说他们是出于宗教原因,因为他们信基督教,《圣经》告诉他们要收养小孩。一些收养家庭也承认。但是据我观察,他们并不全部是基督徒,也有可能信犹太教、摩门教。

养父母要给孤儿院至少2万美元,引起了很多中国网友的气愤,这不是人贩子么?等这些孩子长大以后,养父母会鼓励他们去寻找亲生父母。新闻经常报道,很多被领养的小孩去了美国,长大以后就回国寻亲。但在中国文化里面,养父母一般不喜欢小孩去找他们的亲生父母,因为担心会失去他们。

不管怎么样,我为他们感到高兴。他们有些人身体残疾,他们几乎所有人不太可能受到良好的教育和医疗,中国社会竞争非常激烈也很冷漠,如果他们呆在孤儿院,他们也不太有一个快乐的童年,而且长大以后面对他们的是一个残酷的人生。