Discovering Our Different Emotional Needs
Men and women gernerally are unaware that they have different emotional needs. As a result they do not instinctively know how to support ...
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What He Can Say Instead of Arguing
There was nothing wrong with Harris's need to be alone or watch TV, nor was there anything wrong with Cathy's hurt feelings. Inst...
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Why Men and Women Fight
Harris completely misunderstood Cathy's hurt reaction. He thought she was demanding that he give up TV forever. Cathy wasn't dema...
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Women Are Like Waves
A woman is like a wave. When she feels loved her self-esteem rises and falls in a wave motion. When she is feeling really good, she will ...
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One-sided Conversations
Sandra's conversations were generally one-sided. She would try to get him to talk first by asking him a string of questions. Then, be...
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How to Initiate a Conversation with a Man
The more a woman tries to get a man to talk the more he will resist. Directly trying to get him to talk is not the best approach, especia...
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Chapter 6 Men Are Like Rubber Bands
Men are like rubber bands. When they pull away, they can stretch only so far before they come springing back. A rubber band is the perfec...
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HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITHOUT BLAME
A man commonly feels attacked and blamed by a woman's feelings, especially when she is upset and talks about problems. Because he doe...
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When a Man Doesn't Need Help
A man may start to feel smothered when a woman tries to comfort him or help him solve a problem. He feels as though she doesn't trust...
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WHAT TO DO WHEN HE GOES INTO HIS CAVE
In my seminars when I explain aout caves and dragons, women want to know how they can shorten the time men spend in their caves. At this ...
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WHEN MARTIANS DO TALK
Women get burned not only when they unknowingly invade a man's introspective time but also when they misinterpret his expressions, wh...
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WHEN MARTIANS DON'T TALK
One of the big challenges for men is correctly to interpret and support a woman when she is talking about her feelings. The biggest chall...
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Speaking Different Languages
When the Martians and Venusians first got together, they encountered many of the problems with relationships we have today. Because they ...
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LEARNING TO GIVE
A man's deepest fear is that he is not good enough or that he is incompetent. He compensates for this fear by focusing on increasing ...
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SETTING AND RESPECTING LIMITS
Most important, however, a woman needs to recognize her boundaries of what she can give without resenting her partner. Instead of expecti...
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Love Motivates Martians
The Martians began building a fleet of spaceships that would carry them across the heavens to Venusians.They had never felt so alive. Thr...
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How to Motivate the Opposite Sex
Centuries before the Martians and Venusians got together they had been quite happy living in their separate worlds. Then one day everythi...
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How Men React When Women Need to Talk
When women talk about problems, men usually resist. A man assumes she is talking with him about her problems because she is holding him r...
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HOW WOMEN REACT TO THE CAVE
When a man is stuck in his cave, he is powerless to his partner the quality attention she deserves. It is hard for her to be accepting of...
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Chapter3 MEN GO to Their Caves and Women Talk
One of the biggest differences between men and women is how they cope with stress. Men become increasingly focuse and withdrawn while wom...
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