Why we have to apologize?
Why we have to apologize?
One thing I learned in my life, which is just 22 years, is that it is better to apologize in any case. I can exactly imagine how you react, “why would I have to say sorry if I do not anything wrong”. Yes, that’s true. It sounds silly and instinctively human beings do not like to acknowledge their faults. However, I’m going to ask another question. Have you ever lost your friends or partners because of the arguments they and you made? Certainly, I have lots of fellows who I’ve never met since trivial quarrels. Do you still think there are benefits you can get from clamming you are right?
Personally, I’m trying to have logical thinking rather than temporary emotion. Since this, I believe that it is very important to control your anger and anxiety. I discovered that apologizing is the best way to do so.
Let me put it this way, once you feel guilty, where it doesn’t matter why we feel that way, we often tend to search for what is actually causing problems, and eventually end up accusing your behavior that we think as the possible causation, even though they have nothing to do with the trouble. As a result of which, we cannot get out of the vicious cycle. Sadly, this is human nature.
That is my theory. I admit that to express your feeling or opinion are absolutely important. However, sometimes, it doesn’t help to maintain good relationships in terms of long-term benefits.
One thing I learned in my life, which is just 22 years, is that it is better to apologize in any case. I can exactly imagine how you react, “why would I have to say sorry if I do not anything wrong”. Yes, that’s true. It sounds silly and instinctively human beings do not like to acknowledge their faults. However, I’m going to ask another question. Have you ever lost your friends or partners because of the arguments they and you made? Certainly, I have lots of fellows who I’ve never met since trivial quarrels. Do you still think there are benefits you can get from clamming you are right?
Personally, I’m trying to have logical thinking rather than temporary emotion. Since this, I believe that it is very important to control your anger and anxiety. I discovered that apologizing is the best way to do so.
Let me put it this way, once you feel guilty, where it doesn’t matter why we feel that way, we often tend to search for what is actually causing problems, and eventually end up accusing your behavior that we think as the possible causation, even though they have nothing to do with the trouble. As a result of which, we cannot get out of the vicious cycle. Sadly, this is human nature.
That is my theory. I admit that to express your feeling or opinion are absolutely important. However, sometimes, it doesn’t help to maintain good relationships in terms of long-term benefits.
Why do we have to apologize?
One thing I've learned in my life, which is just 22 years, is that it is better to apologize in any case.
I can imagine exactly how you'll react: “Why would I have to say sorry if I did nothing wrong?”
It sounds silly, and human beings instinctively do not like to acknowledge their faults.
Have you ever lost your friends or partners because of the arguments they and you had?
I certainly have lots of people who I haven't seen since our trivial quarrels.
Do you still think there are benefits to get from claiming you are right?
Personally, I’m trying to think logically rather than give in to temporary emotion.
Because of this, I believe that it is very important to control your anger and anxiety.
I've discovered that apologizing is the best way to do so.
Let me put it this way. Once we feel guilty, and it doesn’t matter why we feel that way, we often tend to search for what is actually causing problems, and eventually end up blaming our behavior that we think is the possible cause, even though it has nothing to do with the trouble.
As a result of this, we cannot get out of the vicious cycle.
I admit that it is absolutely important to express your feelings or opinions.
One thing I learned in my life, which I've just experienced for 22 years, is that it is better to apologize in any situation.
I can imagine exactly how you'll react / I can imagine your exact reaction, “Why should I have to say sorry if I did nothing wrong?”
or: Logically speaking, that may be true. / In reality, it may be true.
It sounds silly, but by instinct, human beings do not like to acknowledge their (own) faults.
Have you ever lost (your) friends or partners because of / due to the arguments you have had?
Certainly, I know lots of people who I’ve never seen since our trivial quarrels.
Do you still think the current situation is still beneficial by maintaining that you are right?
Personally, I would like to try to think logically rather than give in to temporary emotion.
I discovered that apologizing is the best solution.
what is actually causing the problem, and eventually end up blaming our (own) behavior for what we think might be / may be the possible cause, even though it has nothing to do with our original troubles.
As a result, we cannot get out of this vicious cycle. / cannot escape
Whether we feel guilty or not, I think we tend to search for the original cause of the problem. If we do not feel any guilt, there is little incentive left to encourage us to find a solution.
One thing I've learned in my 22 years is that it is always better to apologize.
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