One thing I learned in my life, which is just 22 years, is that it is better to apologize in any case. I can exactly imagine how you react, “why would I have to say sorry if I do not anything wrong”. Yes, that’s true. It sounds silly and instinctively human beings do not like to acknowledge their faults. However, I’m going to ask another question. Have you ever lost your friends or partners because of the arguments they and you made? Certainly, I have lots of fellows who I’ve never met since trivial quarrels. Do you still think there are benefits you can get from clamming you are right?
Personally, I’m trying to have logical thinking rather than temporary emotion. Since this, I believe that it is very important to control your anger and anxiety. I discovered that apologizing is the best way to do so.
Let me put it this way, once you feel guilty, where it doesn’t matter why we feel that way, we often tend to search for what is actually causing problems, and eventually end up accusing your behavior that we think as the possible causation, even though they have nothing to do with the trouble. As a result of which, we cannot get out of the vicious cycle. Sadly, this is human nature.
That is my theory. I admit that to express your feeling or opinion are absolutely important. However, sometimes, it doesn’t help to maintain good relationships in terms of long-term benefits.